Don’t make an engagement ring a birthday or Christmas gift.
First, if on the off chance she was to break up with you and the engagement ring was a birthday or Christmas gift, and then she would be able to keep the ring.
Second, the giving of an engagement ring should be on a special day all by itself-for example, on the one year anniversary of your first date.
The more thought and preparation you put into this, the more it will be appreciated.
Once you’ve purchased the ring, as tempting as it might be to want to show off your purchase to your friends and family, don’t.
The showing off is for your girlfriend to do once she gets the ring. What you don’t want happening is for everyone to say, “Oh, yes, that’s pretty; we’ve seen it before!”
One of the most exciting parts about receiving an engagement ring is showing it off and watching your friends and family’s reaction to seeing it for the first time. Don’t take that away from her. Once you purchase the diamond, don’t show it to anyone. That will be her job.
If you can’t follow rule two and break down and show the ring to someone and it happens to be a lady, don’t - I mean don’t - let her try it on.
Some women are very superstitious about being the first and sometimes the only one to wear the ring. You don’t want your wife-to-be to run into this person and have her say, “Oh, yes, I saw it last week and tried it on and told your fiancé that if it looks good on me it will look good on you!”
You’re a dead man if this happens, and all the money you spent on the ring will go down the drain!
